Monday, December 21, 2009

Our View of Ourselves



I was going through photos of myself as a child today. I kept saying, 'Oh, I was so cute!' and Nate kept looking over at the photos and saying, 'Gee, you look just the same.' And I would see photos of my mom and say, 'My mom is so beautiful!' and Nate points out, again, that I look just the same, LOL.

How does that jive? Although I have been redefining my view of beauty, and have come to believe that I am beautiful, I guess I still had myself graded pretty low...and looking at the pictures I was thinking I
used to be adorable. Nate set me straight, I guess.

I have heard/read/seen women talking about themselves lately and it makes me so sad. One woman who hopes she can lose weight so her husband might finally love her, one who says she'll never be pretty but she wants to at least be thin, etc. I cry for women. We have a very low view of ourselves--all of us! We need to overcome that...and I have no idea how.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

It never occured to me to put your photos on the net, I always knew what a pretty girl you are. I have older photos that show that too.

The ones you posted were taken by a professional photographer who upon meeting you exclaimed, "I have to photogragh that child" And he did.

Love Mom

Mom said...

It never occured to me to put your photos on the net, I always knew what a pretty girl you are. I have older photos that show that too.

The ones you posted were taken by a professional photographer who upon meeting you exclaimed, "I have to photogragh that child" And he did.

Love Mom

Cynthia said...

I remember when you came to visit. I was expecting a morbidly obese, ugly woman. I was quite shocked to see this pretty lady at my door who was certainly not the woman I had hoped would not break my furniture. I had actually prepared my family ahead of time, so they wouldn't stare at you. They thought I was crazy after they saw you, since you we not at all what you had portrayed yourself to be before I actually saw you.

This morning Perry wanted to take a picture of me and I said, "Oh do not take a picture of me. I look terrible." He looked quite sorry and said, "I'm sorry. I didn't know you look terrible." It made me stop and think about how my family views me much more favorably than I view myself.

Jenny-Fair said...

You may be interested to know, Cynthia, that according to the BMI charts, I AM 'morbidly obese'. Surprised I haven't dropped dead of a heart attack...oh, wait! Fat people have a greater chance of surviving heart attacks! LOL

Anyway, thank you for calling me pretty and yes, indeed, my view of myself has much improved since the visit we made three years ago.

Cynthia said...

Jennifer, you are pretty. My whole family thought so.

It's good that your view of yourself has improved. There are many shapes and sizes of beauty. Some of the most beautiful women are plus sized.